Happy Monday guys, and yes Mondays should be happy even though it's the beginning of a week, think of it as a fresh start every week. I wanted to talk about something which is a subject of great importance to me and something I struggle with a lot but try and enforce into my life everyday and within every situation and that's positivity, now someone who struggles with anxiety and stress and in the past depression it is something that may be harder for me than some others however it is doable and since trying to enforce more positivity into my life my happiness has increased so much!
I have already written a blog post about this way back where I spoke about how I became happy, I suffered with depression around 2 and a half years ago now and I can finally say I am happy however I still have anxiety and stress problems quite a lot however they are manageable. Some things I do to stay happy are:
1) say 'fuck it' sorry for the language but it's true, in other nicer terms 'say yes' to more, when I was going through my rough patch I would never go out, say no to friends asking me to do cool things with them and in the long run I was missing out on memories and experiences that were being created by them. Saying fuck it has made me into a happier more out going person, what's the worse that could happen?
2) being optimistic is a very very important part in my life, pessimistic people just shower you with negativity - don't let them bastards bring you down! Even in a really bad situation try and thing of all the positive things that could possibly come out of it, say a break up for example (luckily I am in a very strong relationship and haven't had to experience this) but if it's ended it's ended for reasons, you can then go on to do better things and be independent and strong it wouldn't have ended if you were meant to be, and also I don't believe in the saying that if a relationship has ended you should never get back with that person because it wasn't meant to be, my boyfriend and I broke up for 6 months the first time we broke up after previously being together for 2 years and then we found each other again and have nearly been together now for 3 and a half years, if it's meant to be it'll be. "a pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty"
3) Focus on YOU, you are the most important person in your life, and that sounds selfish but I don't mean in a selfish way, it's your life and you need to look after that life. At the end of the day you're the one that's going to make mistakes and you're the one that's going to bring you down so you need to be strong and positive to be able to bring yourself up again. Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.
4) Be grateful, this is something that has really effected my happiness, be grateful you're alive and breathing that should be the most important factor to being happy, be grateful you have a house to live in, family and friends who care for you, nice food to eat because there are people who are still happy and shining even when they have far less, they are the special people in this world who are still able to be positive through really tough times.
5) Lastly for this motivational Monday post focus on everything that is good in your life rather than focusing on the things you've lost or the mistakes you have made, a big thing which I struggled with was dwelling on the past - the past has happened you cant change that but focus on changing your future into a better positive one and forget all the things you can't changed which have happened which for me have made me into a stronger person.
Thank you guys for taking the time to read this motivational Monday, see you next Monday for another motivational Monday!
Izzy
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